Edited: Because I went to school in DC, I have a lot of very liberal friends who live in other states. On May 9, my Facebook newsfeed was filled with harsh, angry or just disappointed messages about North Carolina. My first reaction was embarrassment- I live in a state that people throughout the country now look down on. But my second (and stronger reaction) was disappointment in these people- not one person posted a status thanking the opponents of the amendment for their tireless work or promising to keep on fighting with and for LGBTs here. Not one acknowledged the thousands of 20 somethings who took a strong stand even when they don’t consider themselves political.
Am I proud of the decision to pass Amendment One? Absolutely not. But I am proud of the 39% of North Carolinians that took a stand and are continuing to fight against Amendment One.
P.S. Read this article: “I will not give up on you North Carolina. None of us will.“
If you’ve been paying attention to the news, you’ll know that Amendment One passed in NC. I don’t feel like I can write an articulate response, but the following messages stood out to me on my Facebook page.
Sad day in NC as our state voted to take away the rights of so many, both gay and straight. However, I’m proud to be from Raleigh where the majority voted against it, and I’m encouraged by the community here that has come together and taken so much action to educate voters and encourage everyone to vote against. At least we can say we fought a good fight.
The hate-filled statuses against the south in response to NC’s passing of amendment 1 is more discouraging to me than the actual passing of the legislation. An electorate is not representational of all of the population– don’t forget LGBT people, people in domestic partnerships and alternative family structures live there too. Please don’t discount their work on the ground. Not to mention, 29 states, not all in the south, have already passed this type of legislation.
Struggling for the right words today. I’ve been getting overwhelmed by the variety and strength of my emotions about the amendment. I hate that this vote is tearing our state apart. What upsets me the most is to see people who I know to be loving and kind slinging hateful messages at the other side. We’re asking others to show tolerance so let’s set that example. We’re want to win legal recognition for our loving relationships, so let’s approach this with love. We very well may lose the vote today, but let’s not be ugly about it and give the other side more reasons to vote our rights away. If we want to change the majority’s opinion, we need to approach them with love, tolerance and respect. No matter which way the vote goes, I feel like there’s a win every time someone says something loving, and I feel like we lose every time we say something hateful.
I’m sorry that 832,867 of us voting against Amendment One was not enough. I’m sorry that last night’s news was not different. And I’m sorry for what the passing of this measure means.
These last months have been epic, and the story is far from over. This morning begins the next chapter, with many opportunities to carry the momentum forward. In some ways, this morning is no different than the rest — because I, like many, still believe in ALL.
Future generations will look back on this day in disbelief and embarrassment. But politics will catch up with truth eventually. Don’t fight fire with fire, keep spreading the word about love and equality. ♥ NC
I’m sad tonight for ALL of the families (gay or straight) in NC that may be affected by Amendment 1…but my heart is heavier tonight for my closest friends who had to experience such a public form of discrimination.